{"id":7615,"date":"2020-06-17T02:21:21","date_gmt":"2020-06-17T07:21:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ask-a-muslim.com\/?p=7615"},"modified":"2020-07-01T08:03:28","modified_gmt":"2020-07-01T13:03:28","slug":"noor-ex-hindu-uk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ask-a-muslim.com\/fr\/noor-ex-hindu-uk\/","title":{"rendered":"Noor, Ex-Hindu, UK"},"content":{"rendered":"

(part 1 of 2)<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I came from a purely Hindu family where we were always taught to regard ourselves (i.e. women) as beings who were eventually to be married off and have children and serve the husband – whether he was kind or not. Other than this, I found that there were a lot of things which really oppressed women, such as:
\nIf a woman was widowed, she would always have to wear a white sari (costume), eat vegetarian meals, cut her hair short, and never re-marry. The bride always had to pay the dowry (bridal money) to the husband\u2019s family. And the husband could ask for anything, irrespective of whether the bride would have difficulty giving it.<\/p>\n

Not only that, if, after marriage, she was not able to pay the full dowry, she would be both emotionally and physically tortured, and could end up being a victim of \u201ckitchen death\u201d where the husband, or both the mother-in-law and the husband, try to set fire to the wife while she is cooking or is in the kitchen and try to make it look like an accidental death. More and more of these instances are taking place. The daughter of a friend of my own father\u2019s had the same fate last year!<\/p>\n

In addition to all this, men in Hinduism are treated literally as among the gods. In one of the religious Hindu celebrations, unmarried girls pray for and worship an idol representing a particular god (Shira) so that they may have husbands like him. Even my own mother had asked me to do this. This made me see that the Hindu religion, which is based on superstitions and things that have no manifest proof but were merely traditions which oppressed women, could not be right.<\/p>\n

Subsequently, when I came to England to study, I thought that at least this is a country which gives equal rights to men and women and does not oppress them. We all have the freedom to do as we like, I thought. Well, as I started to meet people and make new friends, learn about this new society, and go to all the places my friends went to in order to \u201csocialize\u201d (bars, dance halls, etc.), I realized that this \u201cequality\u201d was not so true in practice as it was in theory.<\/p>\n

Outwardly, women were seen to be given equal rights in education, work, and so forth, but in reality women were still oppressed in a different, more subtle way. When I went with my friends to those places they hung out at, I found everybody interested to talk to me, and I thought that was normal. But it was only later that I realized how na\u00efve I was and recognized what these people were really looking for. I soon began to feel uncomfortable, as if I was not myself: I had to dress in a certain way so that people would like me, and had to talk in a certain way to please them. I soon found that I was feeling more and more uncomfortable, less and less myself, yet I could not get out. Everybody was saying they were enjoying themselves, but I don\u2019t call this enjoying.<\/p>\n

I think women in this way of life are oppressed: they have to dress in a certain way in order to please and appear more appealing and also talk in a certain way so people like them. During this time, I had not thought about Islam, even though I had some Muslim acquaintances. But I felt I really had to do something to find something that I would be happy and secure with and would feel respected with. Something to believe in that is the right belief, because everybody has a belief that they live according to. If having fun by getting off with other people is someone\u2019s belief, they do this. If making money is someone\u2019s belief, they do everything to achieve this. If they believe drinking is one way to enjoy life then they do it. But I feel all this leads to nowhere; no one is truly satisfied, and the respect women are looking for is diminishing in this way.<\/p>\n

<\/h3>\n

(partie 2 de 2)<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Dans nos soci\u00e9t\u00e9s de soi-disant \u00ab \u00e9galit\u00e9 des droits \u00bb, on s\u2019attend \u00e0 ce qu\u2019une femme sorte avec des hommes et ne soit plus vierge pass\u00e9 un certain \u00e2ge. Autrement, elle passe pour bizarre. C\u2019est pourtant l\u00e0 une forme claire d\u2019oppression, m\u00eame si la plupart des femmes ne le r\u00e9alisent pas. Quand j\u2019ai enfin d\u00e9couvert l\u2019islam, il m\u2019est apparu \u00e9vident que j\u2019allais y trouver la stabilit\u00e9 que je recherchais, une religion claire et un mode de vie complet embrassant tous les aspects de la vie. Beaucoup s\u2019imaginent que l\u2019islam est une religion oppressive, dans laquelle les femmes sont couvertes de la t\u00eate aux pieds en plus de n\u2019avoir ni droits ni libert\u00e9s. En fait, l\u2019islam accorde aux femmes, depuis 1400 ans, plusieurs droits qui n\u2019ont pourtant \u00e9t\u00e9 accord\u00e9s que r\u00e9cemment aux femmes non-musulmanes, tant dans les soci\u00e9t\u00e9s occidentales que dans d\u2019autres parties du monde. Et il existe, de nos jours encore, des soci\u00e9t\u00e9s o\u00f9 les femmes sont toujours tr\u00e8s opprim\u00e9es, comme dans plusieurs r\u00e9gions de l\u2019Inde.<\/p>\n

Les musulmanes ont droit \u00e0 l\u2019h\u00e9ritage, ont droit de faire des affaires, de conclure des ententes et de prendre leurs propres d\u00e9cisions financi\u00e8res sans demander l\u2019avis des hommes de leur entourage. Elles ont droit \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9ducation et ont le droit de refuser d\u2019\u00eatre mari\u00e9es \u00e0 un homme qui ne leur pla\u00eet pas. Le Coran, qui est la parole de Dieu, contient plusieurs versets ordonnant aux hommes de se montrer bons envers les femmes et rappelant les droits de celles-ci. Parce que les lois de l\u2019islam sont celles de Dieu et non celles des hommes, elles sont parfaitement adapt\u00e9es aux besoins des hommes et des femmes.<\/p>\n

On interroge souvent les musulmanes sur leur tenue vestimentaire, laissant entendre qu\u2019elles sont opprim\u00e9es. Pourtant, elles ne le sont pas. En islam, le mariage est l\u2019un des fondements les plus importants d\u2019une soci\u00e9t\u00e9. La femme ne doit donc pas s\u2019exposer aux yeux de tous et ne doit montrer ses atours qu\u2019\u00e0 son mari. M\u00eame les hommes doivent conserver une pudeur et ne montrer certaines parties de leur corps (comme leurs cuisses, entre autres) qu\u2019\u00e0 leur \u00e9pouse. Dans le Coran,<\/p>\n

Dieu ordonne ainsi aux femmes de se couvrir :
\n\u00ab \u00d4 Proph\u00e8te! Dis \u00e0 tes \u00e9pouses, \u00e0 tes filles et aux femmes des croyants de ramener sur elles leurs grands voiles [lorsqu\u2019elles se d\u00e9placent \u00e0 l\u2019ext\u00e9rieur]. Elles en seront plus ais\u00e9ment reconnues et \u00e9viteront d\u2019\u00eatre importun\u00e9es. Dieu est Pardonneur et Mis\u00e9ricordieux. \u00bb (Coran 33:59)<\/p>\n

Dans la plupart des soci\u00e9t\u00e9s non-musulmanes, les femmes qui se font attaquer le sont le plus souvent \u00e0 cause de la fa\u00e7on dont elles sont v\u00eatues. J\u2019aimerais \u00e9galement souligner que plusieurs r\u00e8gles \u00e9tablies par Dieu s\u2019adressent autant aux hommes qu\u2019aux femmes. Par exemple, les hommes et les femmes ne se m\u00ealent pas inutilement les uns aux autres afin d\u2019\u00e9viter toute tentation.<\/p>\n

Ce que Dieu commande aux \u00eatres humains est bon, pour eux, nul doute l\u00e0-dessus. Un verset du Coran dit :
\n\u00ab Dis aux croyants de maintenir leur regard baiss\u00e9 et de pr\u00e9server leur chastet\u00e9. C\u2019est bien plus pur pour eux. Nul doute que Dieu sait parfaitement ce qu\u2019ils font! Et dis aux croyantes de baisser leur regard, de pr\u00e9server leur chastet\u00e9 et de ne montrer de (leur beaut\u00e9 et) de leurs ornements que ce qui en para\u00eet (ordinairement). \u00bb (Coran 24:30-31)<\/p>\n

Lorsque je mis mon hijab pour la premi\u00e8re fois, je ressentis une grande satisfaction d\u2019ob\u00e9ir \u00e0 un commandement de Dieu. Je me sentis en s\u00e9curit\u00e9, prot\u00e9g\u00e9e. Et je r\u00e9alisai vite que les gens me respectaient plus, ainsi v\u00eatue; je remarquai clairement une diff\u00e9rence dans leur fa\u00e7on de m\u2019aborder.<\/p>\n

Enfin, j\u2019aimerais dire que ce n\u2019est pas aveugl\u00e9ment que j\u2019ai d\u00e9cid\u00e9 de me convertir \u00e0 l\u2019islam et que personne n\u2019a fait pression sur moi en ce sens. D\u2019ailleurs, un verset du Coran dit clairement :
\n\u00ab Nulle contrainte en religion. \u00bb (Coran 2:256)<\/p>\n

C\u2019est avec conviction que j\u2019ai embrass\u00e9 l\u2019islam. J\u2019ai connu les deux modes de vie, avant et apr\u00e8s l\u2019islam, et je sais que j\u2019ai r\u00e9ellement fait le bon choix. L\u2019islam n\u2019opprime pas les femmes, mais les lib\u00e8re et leur donne le respect qu\u2019elles m\u00e9ritent. L\u2019islam est la religion que Dieu a choisie pour toute l\u2019humanit\u00e9, jusqu\u2019\u00e0 la fin des temps. Ceux qui l\u2019embrassent se lib\u00e8rent des cha\u00eenes impos\u00e9es par les lois des hommes, qui ne cr\u00e9ent que des in\u00e9galit\u00e9s, l\u2019oppression de certains groupes de personnes par d\u2019autres groupes de personnes et l\u2019exploitation d\u2019un sexe par l\u2019autre sexe. L\u2019islam est la seule religion qui ait r\u00e9ellement lib\u00e9r\u00e9 les femmes et qui leur a donn\u00e9 une individualit\u00e9 qu\u2019aucune autre autorit\u00e9 ne leur a jamais donn\u00e9e.<\/p>\n

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Source: https:\/\/www.islamland.com\/fre\/articles\/noor-ex-hindu-uk.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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